Leah criticizes Andre loudly whenever he retreats to his study, and Andre retreats further when she criticizes. The therapist asks Leah, "In that moment when you see the study door close, what happens inside you, just before the anger comes?" The purpose of this question is to help Leah
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access the attachment fear beneath her reactive anger.: Correct. In emotionally focused therapy (Johnson), the therapist moves past the reactive secondary emotion (anger) to the primary attachment emotion (fear of being abandoned) to soften the pursue-withdraw cycle.
practice a gentle start-up when raising complaints.: Gentle start-up is a Gottman Method skill; the question is not skill-building.
identify the cognitive distortion behind her criticism.: Identifying distortions is cognitive-behavioral work; the question explores emotional experience, not thoughts to be corrected.
connect her reactions to her family of origin.: The question stays in the present moment of the cycle; it does not trace intergenerational patterns.
EFT de-escalates a couple's negative cycle by accessing the attachment emotions beneath reactive anger or withdrawal and helping partners express them.